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Five months since this project began, and I'm still not through explaining all of my 101 Things. So I'm going to make an effort to push through and get'r done.
I could have easily made my entire 101 Things list about things that I want to complete with/for/because of my kids. They're pretty much the centre of my universe, and I'm okay with that. But I decided to focus on a few simple things that would be a lot of fun.
61. Take Isla to see her first movie
It has taken me so long to get around to these explanations, that I have already gone and completed this one. Dave and I took Isla to see Winnie The Pooh when it was in theatres in the summer, and she had a blast. I'm thinking of taking her to see Puss in Boots this weekend. I'm secretly hoping she will develop a love of the movie theatre, so that I can have a movie buddy, since her dad is not so keen. There may be bribery in the form of Swedish Berries.
62. Take Isla to see her first play
I have my drama degree and I love live theatre, but it has been ages since I have seen any and I am really looking forward to taking Isla to see her first play. My mom will be taking Isla to see a puppet show at the Grand Theatre in a couple of weeks, and I'm sure they'll have an awesome time, but for the purposes of this list I'm not counting it as a "first play" per se, which I think needs to have actual live people in it. So I will still consider that "first" up for grabs.
How will I know when it's complete?
We will have seen actual live people performing characters with some sort of story, on a stage or in a park or somewhere with some sort of performance area.
63. Take Isla on a mommy/daughter weekend away
Our week in Halifax kind of accomplished this, but I'm leaving it as an incomplete because I'd like to do it again. Also, with Halifax, we were visiting other people, and I think it would be nice to just have a weekend to ourselves some time. With the youngest daughter around all the time, it's hard to have quality time just mommy and 4 year old and, while we try to find small ways to accomplish this, I think it would be fun to whisk her away somewhere to spend some extended time just us.
How will I know when it's complete?
We'll have gone out of town for at least one night, staying at some sort of hotel/motel/campground, just the two of us.
64. Take Evy on a mommy/daughter weekend away
Miss Ev is only 16 months old so a weekend away is not the sort of thing she would appreciate at the moment, although I do try to make quality time for her and I on a regular basis (which is easier now with the eldest one in school). But in a few years time, and before this project is complete, I'd like to do the same with her, have a weekend just mum and Ev. The unfortunate thing about being anything but the first-born child is you rarely know what it's like to have undivided attention, not in the same way the first-born had, in any case, before siblings came around. A little bit of that would be nice.
How will I know when it's complete? Second verse, same as the first (a little bit louder and a little bit worse? Perhaps).
65. Try out every playground in the city
This is hella ambitious but I decided to keep it on the list. It's a fun challenge. Already we've switched up from going to our usual places and have gone to a few parks we might not otherwise have tried, some awesome and some not so awesome. There is a city parks map online which is useful, although their legend of parks does not appear to go either alphabetically or numerically which is annoying. I have been trying to get a hard copy through the city, so that I can cross them off as we go, but my search has been to no avail as of yet. In any case, this will mainly be a warm weather endeavour and I think once the littlest one is no longer taking naps (please let this be years from now) it will be a bit easier. I keep thinking I should probably keep track of each park's amenities to create some sort of database, but that seems like a lot of work. And this is supposed to be about fun.
How will I know when it's complete? We'll have gone to every park on the city parks map. I am not counting school parks, just public city parks. There are enough of those.
66. At least once, allow Isla to do my hair, makeup, and choose my clothes, and take her out for lunch (provided the outfit will not break any public indecency laws)
I might regret this one, but I think this could be really fun. I don't care much about hair, makeup and clothes, and would prefer my daughters didn't either, but that said, I think Isla would have a blast dressing me up like a real live doll. And I feel like by going out in public no matter how I look, it will show her that those things don't really matter and should just be about having fun. I think that's a good message.
How will I know when it's complete? Isla will have free reign to do my hair and makeup, and choose anything out of my closet for me to wear, provided I am decently covered and dressed suitably for the weather. We'll go for lunch at a public establishment where I will not comment to others about my look (i.e. "Just so you know, my daughter dressed me today! I'm not usually like this!") unless asked.
67. At least once, let Isla make all the decisions for a do-anything, go-anywhere day
I try to give Isla choices when I can but let's face it: the day-to-day life of a child is primarily dictated by the parent(s), in most cases. I think it would be fun and empowering to let her decide, for at least one day, what we do and when, what we eat, and where we go. It would be interesting to see what choices she makes, and I think that a day of spontanaiety is good for all.
How will I know when it's complete? For at least one day, Isla will get to make the decisions from start to finish. Now, obviously, these have to be within the realms of possibility. We can't ride an octopus to China, at least not until we've finished those Chinese octopus riding lessons. So clearly her decisions are limited by what is actually doable. It also has to be safe, of course, and age appropriate. All the basic no-brainer parenting rules still apply. But within those boundaries, the choices will be all hers. Smarties for breakfast? Sure. Watching Lion King six times in a row? Why not? I will also try my very best not to influence the decisions any way.
68. Learn something new with my children
I learn new things with my kids all the time but for this Thing, I'm thinking of something that I really know just as little about as they do. So I don't know what it could be. Let's say the girls wonder how soccer balls are made. You know what, I have no idea so let's find out together. And we'll embark on a thorough fact-finding project. I would like to do this as often as this sort of thing comes up, of course, but I'll count this done if it happens on this sort of larger scale at least once.
How will I know when it's complete?
We'll have started in complete ignorance and learned enough about the subject to be able to explain it to others. And hopefully we'll have had a lot of fun along the way.
69. Create two annual family charity projects
Now that Isla is old enough, at 4 years old, to really begin to understand the practice of giving and looking beyond our own needs and wants, I would like to develop at least two annual family projects which involve giving back in some way. It could be something like a Christmas shoebox program, or collecting items for the food bank, or making decorations for seniors or sick kids. In fact, I would like to do all of those and more. But we'll start with two. My hope is to start with something this Christmas; we already buy toys for my husband's company toy drive, but I'd like to do more, I just haven't quite figured out what yet (suggestions welcome).
How will I know when it's complete?
We'll have participated in two charity projects with the kids, and have done each at least twice (to make it eligible for the "annual" part). These should be projects that are sustainable in the long term, and fun for the family to do.
I had hoped to make progress on some of my 101 Things tonight, but my arthritis is flaring up pretty badly and, with my husband working late and the kids finally asleep, I think I will just head to bed. Someone has to be up at 4 a.m. for no particular reason and my guess is that it's going to be me. Sigh